Let's start this blog with a cheerful and happy topic : breaking up

No I haven't broke up with anyone lately, for I haven't been with anybody lately. Here I'm just inspired by the story of a friend of mine, whom I hope will forgive this use of her mishaps as a start for a general reflexion on love and, more specifically, its ending.

What leads to a breaking up is hard to know beforehand. There would probably be no separation then, for one could see it coming and thus act in order to try to avoid it. There are as many possible reasons as there have been breaking-ups in the whole story of Mankind.

Still, sometimes, things just don't work, or don't work anymore.
Whose fault is that ? Sometimes (and quite frequently indeed) nobody's, for being oneself is hardly criticizable at all... And being oneself is often the one reason why you end up tiring your once-significant other.

Just because one gets tired of this special person one loved for a while doesn't mean the soon-to-be-ex is supposed to enter a fit of mad anger, stopping to think, and talking much faster than one should...

Well, I hear you thinking from here... "Love is passion, and passion is uncontrolable...".
True enough. Still, people should always remain conscious of a very simple fact that eases everything : in our "occidental" societies (at least), women are now considered (at least theoretically) equal to men. AND slavery is commonly recognized as a crime (and thus abolished).
Knowing this, people should always remain conscious that your significant other doesn't belong to you. He/She is just another fully free human being, free to give you Love at a time for no reason at all and stop giving it for the same absence of reason.
And any person who wants to deserve being considered as a responsible adult should, in my opinion, understand and respect this freedom.

I know how painful it can be, but this is your pain, your friends are here to help you deal with it, you are absolutely not entitled to try to turn it back towards your recent ex.
And as far as friends and relatives are concerned, their role should not be to show you what an awful person your ex was, but to distract you from a painful topic... By changing your ideas by any means necessary.

In my opinion, couple stories are (or should be) of very little concern to anybody not concerned (that is [world poplation] minus 2) anyway.

Reactions and thoughts welcome.
Stay tuned.